It's Monday afternoon and we have heard nothing more about referrals - if we are in, when they are coming - nothing!  It's driving us nuts!  I have spent the morning cleaning my house from top to bottom, which is something I do when I'm stressed.  I have to stop every 30 minutes or so and check online to see if anything new has appeared...crazy.

I am so distracted that I was posting to the blog over the weekend and inadvertently deleted my header - that's why you see the plain old text header.  I will try and work on it later this week and make it pretty again.  I did want to change it anyway, as we have decided to use LilyKate (no space), rather than Lily Kate, since that is her first name and we want to discourage people from calling her just Lily.

On a completely different note, our friend Billy is in surgery today and we are praying that everything goes well.  If you would, please keep Billy, Julie and their family in your prayers this week - for a successful surgery and a speedy recovery - we send them all our love and positive thoughts!



Today, we drove to Birmingham, to attend a seminar at the University of Alabama's International Adoption Clinic. We took along my parents, and Jonathan's mom, and spent the day hearing about medical issues, bonding and attachment, language and development. There were people there from several states who were adopting from various countries - China, Ethiopia, Vietnam and Russia among them. I really wanted our parents to hear first hand the issues we might deal with and the special circumstances of adopting a child from another country - one who has likely spent time in an orphanage, or in foster care.  The seminar was very informative and the staff at the UAB Clinic are wonderful...passionate about what they do and committed to making the lives of children, many of whom have had tough beginnings, more stable and fulfilling - not to mention, they have all adopted children themselves! If you have a clinic like this in your area and are considering adoption, or waiting, I highly recommend attending a seminar, getting a pre-adoption evaluation and making an appointment when you are home. They have insight and understanding into our children in ways that most Pediatricians, Family and Occupational Therapists do not. They also offer services while you are traveling and knowing that we can call them when we are in China, with any questions or concerns, is a huge comfort.


As for our referral...we still don't know anything more, but are hopeful we will hear this coming week. Please keep praying for us as we continue to wait.


First Rumors

The first rumors are beginning to emerge and they say that matching has begun.  So, somewhere in China, a CCAA worker might have our information in front of them, and be pairing it with a baby!  If you want to read more about how matching works, go here to a post I did some time ago that explains all about it.  It takes my breath away to think about this - it may already be done and our baby's picture might be clipped to our file!

Rumors about the cut-off date are starting as well and several people have said their agencies are telling them they are included with log-in dates of January 10th (that's us), and even up to January 13th.  None of this has been confirmed yet, but we should start to see some more information come in over the next several days.  I just have a feeling about next week and think we will see referrals on or about April 3rd.  I have this knot in my stomach right now and am having a hard time concentrating on anything but this - our baby - who she is and where she is and how soon we can hold her.  I'll keep you all posted as soon as I hear anything...



Today is my parent's 50th Wedding Anniversary.  

My mom was a mere 19 when they married and my dad 21. They left their home and all they knew behind in England and boarded a ship to America just a couple of weeks after this photo was taken.  I can't imagine getting married, moving to a new country and having my first child in my early 20's...that took great courage and a lot of faith.

My parents are wonderful, amazing people and have weathered many storms over their five decades together.   They are a blessing to their family and friends and we will celebrate them this evening with a special dinner. Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad - we love you! 


Happy St. Patrick's Day

According to Rumor Queen (based on previous months), we could see referrals as soon as March 28th and as late as April 7th.  I am guessing it will be somewhere in between, so expect the news to come on or around April 3rd. We are going for our 2nd Hep A & B shot's tomorrow and I sent off a letter to the USCIS last week with a request for a re-fingerprinting (they expire April 28th).  I am planning on calling our agency today to discuss the details of referral day - namely, where we want to be when we get "the call".  It's all starting to feel real now!!

In honor of St. Patrick's Day, I share this Irish Prayer and wish you all the luck of the Irish today.

May God give you...
For every storm, a rainbow,
For every tear, a smile,
For every care, a promise,
And a blessing in each trial.
For every problem life sends,
A faithful friend to share,
For every sigh, a sweet song,
And an answer for each prayer.



Poll Results

Well, the votes are in and 50% of you believe that LilyKate will be between 9-12 months at referral.  Chances are high that this will be the case, but we really don't care how old she is, as long as she is healthy.  It is so freakin' exciting knowing that we will find out in just a few weeks.

In the meantime, scroll down the right hand side of the blog and look under Waiting Families to see three couples meet their daughters (Catherine, Zoe and Hannah) in the next few days...so cool!  I have been following their stories for a long time and am so happy and excited for them.  This wait has been long for so many families and we know we have not been alone in our longing for our children.  Seeing other families realize their dreams has given me so much encouragement and has helped us to keep the faith.  We are so close!



It appears that this may be our last month of counting time since our log-in date (LID), as we will likely get our referral in April and the long wait to see Lily Kate's face will be over!  Then, of course, a new count will begin - the days until we hold her in our arms.  I will joyfully and gratefully countdown those days as we prepare for our lives to change forever, somewhere in China, in the very near future!

As you can see from the chart above (via Rumor Queen), we are in even under the "Horrid Case" scenario. If we can just get through the next three weeks to find out if we are really are...c'mon April!  

Update March 13th:  Here is link to another chart which also shows us in for April!  The chart was created by a dad, Dave, who is also adopting from China and has a knack for numbers. His expected cut-off is January 10.


We are positively GIDDY with excitement people!


New poll

Look to the right and you will see a new poll I created, just for fun, to see what you all think about LK's age at referral.  Go ahead and take a guess, educated or wild, and lets see what we come up with.

FYI, the last few batches have included lots of young babies, in the 7-9 month range, but a few older ones too, up to 3 years old.  We requested as young as possible, between 6-12 months, up to 18 months. We can't wait to see her and finally find out all about her!!


We are next!

I can hardly believe it will happen for us, after waiting 2 1/2 years, but it looks like this time next month (or thereabouts) we will be rejoicing and celebrating (and crying of course) and holding a photo of our daughter in our hands.  The cutoff for this month is January 4th. Barring some crazy small batch or a mix-up at the CCAA (which has happened), we are NEXT.  

Wow, so much to do and so awesome to finally be able to utter those three little words...a bit overwhelming I have to say!  After all this time, baby registries are being updated, showers are being planned, and my heart is light for the first time in so long.  

As for this month, well, the babies are too darn cute...just see for yourselves by clicking the word "babies" below! Congratulations to all the families who are hearing the good news this week. 

Check out the babies!