Q: Being referred twins came as a surprise, especially for those of us that follow your blog. What has been the biggest adjustment that you have had to make in your life in order to care for two little ones?
A: Our referral for twins was a huge surprise, although we did request twins, if available, and our agency was pulling for us with the CCAA. Once we got over the shock that there were two babies, we had a lot to do to get ready. It wasn’t just about getting two of everything, but getting used to the whole idea of twins. We have had to make lots of adjustments going from two to four, but for me, the biggest has been that my time is no longer my own. I can’t just get up and go anymore at a moment’s notice. Running a quick errand is no longer a simple exercise. I have to be organized and plan things out, and even then a tired or hungry baby can disrupt my plans. I waited a very long time to be a mom, but this is something I have had to learn as I go - to be flexible. Schedules are great and we definitely have one, but sometimes life gets in the way. You gotta go with the flow!
Q: What has been the most difficult and what has been the easiest?
The most difficult thing so far has been getting the girls to sleep through the night. It took a good three months of sticking to a plan and being patient, but they are pretty much there. We still have occasional wake-ups, but things are so much better. Being well rested makes a huge difference for all of us! The easiest, well that's easy to answer: falling in love with them. It happened instantaneously and just keeps growing by the second. They are such sweet, funny and affectionate girls – they are just good babies! They eat pretty much everything, play so well together, and just fit so well into our family and our life. We are totally and completely head-over-heels in love with them!
Q: How are they different and how are they similar?
A: They really have very different personalities. LilyKate is more independent and confident, and is much more outgoing and social in public. Eleanor is a little less independent and needs a bit more reassurance when we are around other people. She is a studier and thinker, whereas LilyKate is more of a doer. People ask us all the time how we can tell them apart, and although physically we look at them and can tell who is who, we also know them right away by their character traits.
We are pretty sure they are identical twins, although we haven’t had DNA testing done. As for other similarities, they are both very loving and affectionate, and give (and get) lots of hugs and kisses. They love music and will start shaking their heads and dancing when they hear something they like…it is too cute. They both smile and laugh easily, especially when their Daddy makes silly faces and sounds. They are the light of our lives.
Thanks Wendy for the great questions. I really enjoyed answering them and it took me some time to put my thoughts into words…my brain is a little mushy these days, so thanks for the exercise!
If anyone else has any questions, feel free to leave them in the comments and I'll answer them in a future post.